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Post by biglakebass on Jul 19, 2020 19:56:26 GMT -6
Wedding is a step up from graduations in my eyes. So from $20 to $50, or $50 to $100, or....? I take into consideration if i really like them a lot. Haaaa. My niece is getting married this fall. 100. See her twice a year at most. Good kid. |
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Post by badgerfowl on Jul 19, 2020 19:56:33 GMT -6
And maybe my $20 for graduation is on the low side these days. I graduated high school in 2001. I think $20 was pretty typical back then. But college was affordable then too. Maybe $100 is more appropriate these days. But then you get 32 invites like BLB and fuck that noise. And not giving cash to all 32.... no fucking way. Even at $20, that's $640. That's a lot of party food. |
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Post by batman on Jul 19, 2020 19:57:35 GMT -6
Give what you feel is right. What comes around goes around.
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Post by biglakebass on Jul 19, 2020 19:58:05 GMT -6
And not giving cash to all 32.... no fucking way. Even at $20, that's $640. That's a lot of party food. No fucking way are they all getting money.... some are kids i have never met. |
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Post by smsmith on Jul 19, 2020 20:00:46 GMT -6
Exactly my thoughts. I haven't been involved with an "event planning" for quite awhile. I know that costs can explode exponentially...and now with 'rona I am completely clueless. And maybe my $20 for graduation is on the low side these days. I graduated high school in 2001. I think $20 was pretty typical back then. But college was affordable then too. Maybe $100 is more appropriate these days. But then you get 32 invites like BLB and fuck that noise. That was my thought as well. Back in the mid 2000s I was giving my buddie's kids $50. I figured at that time that amount was on the upper end of "appropriate". I'm so out of touch now that I don't know what the range is...hence the question |
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Post by biglakebass on Jul 19, 2020 20:05:28 GMT -6
My daughther seems to have 100 friends or more....
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Post by smsmith on Jul 19, 2020 20:13:23 GMT -6
Give what you feel is right. What comes around goes around. I don't want to be seen as some old dude "expecting favors" if I give a high school graduate $100. It's different if I'm closely related to the individual being "celebrated". We're just an aging couple who spend too much time in bars and have become "bar friends" with many folks (and their kids who also work in local establishments...washing dishes, bussing tables, cooking, bar tending, etc.) and then get invited to "events" These people are good folks and I have no problem throwing a few bucks to them or their kids....but I'd just like to know what "normal" is for gifting |
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Post by Sandbur on Jul 19, 2020 20:18:00 GMT -6
So, we're old. My wife is as tight as a rusty hinge when it comes to gifting money. What is considered a "normal" gift for high school or college graduation, or for a wedding? I'm not talking about when the intended is immediately close via relations, but instead when it's someone you know socially. We are at $25 for graduations and seldom go to the parties. My wife just wrote out a check for $40 for neighbors sons wedding. She had it done or I would have done $50. Good neighbors but we don’t really see each other for many months. We aren’t going to that wedding either. Would send more if attending the wedding. Another adjacent neighbor that we know well gets more. |
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Post by benmnwi on Jul 19, 2020 21:23:28 GMT -6
Good question. I was pondering this yesterday when a high school graduation invitation came from my cousins kid. I haven't seen either of them in 10 years, but my gut said $25 is minimum and $50 would be the upper limit. I'm thinking of going with $25.
Weddings are expensive, so I think $50 is fair.
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Post by Catscratch on Jul 19, 2020 22:05:17 GMT -6
I give $20 to kids I've gotten close to (with their families) and have been invited to their graduation party. I also hand write a congratulatory card and hand delivered it with a handshake. I think the money means nothing really, but attending the family cookout and bs'ing about the last 4 yrs is important. I also think it's usually the parents who appreciate it more. I do my best to write good references when asked but won't lie for a kid. I've found a honest reference is appreciated by the hard working kids a lot.
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Post by kooch on Jul 20, 2020 13:11:52 GMT -6
$20 if we show up to the party. $40 if we show up to the party and the kids are actually real family friends. Last year we attended maybe 6. This year, it'll be two.
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Post by jbird on Jul 20, 2020 13:47:30 GMT -6
Level 1 - You know them, their wife and their kids by name, know them out in public- $100
Level 2 - You know them but struggle with the wife's name or the kids name - $50
Level 3 - You wouldn't know them out in public - $20
Level 4 - you know only the kid or the like because they go to the same school as your kid - $20
Level 5 - You get the invite and you are like, "Who the fuck is this?!?" - you ain't getting squat!
Exception clause A - the person you know is an ass-hole, spouse is an ass-hole/bitch or kids are little bastards = -$50 and I'm not going to your stupid party!
Exception clause B - they are a show-off. Either they gave way too much to you or they got some swanky party thing going on...nobody likes a show-off. Stiff them on the $$ - eat your fill at the party and then split and go drink some beers cause the party is gonna SUCK!
Exception clause C - they are really good friends and they know you broke as shit. They are there when you need them and you help them out when you can....your Homies! Give what you can go to the party and have a blast - maybe try the slip-n-slide or even end-up passed out in the yard somewhere! Don't worry, because next weekend/time they will do the same shit at your place!
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Post by Reagan on Jul 21, 2020 5:15:25 GMT -6
Nieces and nephews get $50-$100 for high school graduation. More for the good kids less for the derelicts.
We get grad announcements from kids of my wife’s childhood friends. Haven’t seen the friend in decades and never met the kid. They get nothing.
If we care enough to attend a wedding, $100
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Post by MoBuckChaser on Jul 21, 2020 5:24:49 GMT -6
Kids that have worked for me get a hand written grad card thanking them for all the hard work over the years, as well as $500. Also In the grad card is how to start an IRA with the money and how to invest in the IRA as they enter the working world.
Rest of the kids get $50-$100, that's enough.
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Post by chummer16 on Jul 21, 2020 7:30:34 GMT -6
This reminds me I threw two invitations on my desk back in May for distant cousins I have not seen in years. It was middle of the lockdown so they knew no one was coming to their parties. I guess I should still send them $20. Is it like a wedding you have a year to do it?
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