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Post by sd51555 on Feb 2, 2017 17:49:14 GMT -6
Sad story today. One of my peers has been married for over 40 years. His birthday was Saturday, and he went out with the wife, kids, and grand kids. Monday after work, after 40+ years of marriage, she blurts out during an argument, "If I don't get my new house this year, I'm going to take all the money out of the bank and leave you." He was suddenly in shock from what he'd just heard. This was a whole new level beyond normal screaming, insulting, and swearing. She blurted that shit out like she'd had it all mapped out in her head already. After the 2x4 shot to the head wore off, he asked a clarifying question. "You would really do that after 44 years?" and without missing a beat she said with absolute certainty, "Dam right I would."
Three days later he's still shaken to his core. I was having lunch with him when he told me this story. I looked at him and could see that his entire world had just been turned upside down. How do you deal with a woman like that, after she says something like that? Two things come to my mind. "Go get an attorney and we'll go to war." or "Yes mother" and he's forever going to get walked on because that behavior validated by caving in.
He might be kinda goofy, but he's always been faithful, hard working, and always looked after himself last. That's his prize after all those years.
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Post by MoBuckChaser on Feb 2, 2017 17:59:22 GMT -6
Kill her, be out in 7 years!
But I would beat her to the bank and take all the money out in case I missed.
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Post by smsmith on Feb 2, 2017 17:59:24 GMT -6
Just keep in mind, you're getting one side of the story
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Post by sd51555 on Feb 2, 2017 18:15:03 GMT -6
I've spent enough time around her to know she's spent a lifetime walking all over him. He's an affable old white-knight kinda guy. He's worshiped her his whole life and she's treated him like a door mat. All last summer he'd work a 9-12 hour day and she'd beat him like a mule after work until ten each night while they were moving from one farm to the other. You think she'd cook something or even go get burger king? Never. Just barked orders and bitched about how shitty things were.
It kills me to see him broken like that after having done "what real men are supposed to do" his whole life. I think if there was a chance he was an asshole, he'd have some will to fight back, but he's just crushed and directionless now.
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Post by MoBuckChaser on Feb 2, 2017 18:21:53 GMT -6
If he has let her walk all over himself all those years, he deserves to get fleeced.
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Post by smsmith on Feb 2, 2017 18:44:01 GMT -6
I believe that we all teach others how to treat us. Anybody who has been treated the way you state for 44 years either enjoys being treated that way...or has some significant mental health/self image issues.
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Post by nhmountains on Feb 2, 2017 19:28:37 GMT -6
Sounds like she had a plan and may have something on the side.
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Post by Tooln on Feb 2, 2017 19:39:11 GMT -6
^^^^^^yep^^^^^^^^
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Post by Satchmo on Feb 2, 2017 19:49:57 GMT -6
SD, if he will listen to you, tell him that self pity will get him nowhere. He needs to make a plan NOW!!! Beat her to the bank, and get his half in his own acct. Sounds like war is a comin', and he'll need it for a lawyer. Nice guys finish last most of the time.
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Post by smsmith on Feb 2, 2017 20:20:26 GMT -6
I've heard that if divorce is imminent, a guy should talk to every divorce lawyer he can locate about possibly filing. Supposedly, if you've done that - any lawyers you've talked to about the case can't take your spouse as a client.
Probably not a viable option in a large city
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Post by mclovin on Feb 2, 2017 20:23:38 GMT -6
If he has let her walk all over himself all those years, he deserves to get fleeced. Easy thing to say when you were raised by a man and taught to be a man. Most boys are raised primarily by women, since they burned their bras they've been teaching our sons to please women at the expense of themselves. Hallmark, Disney, Dr Phil, they are constantly bombarding men and boys with the message that they are expendable, that their happiness doesn't matter, that treating women like princesses is their job. Boys are raised by women who we have trained to be narcissists, women who actually believe their wants come before everyone else's needs. Look at SD's buddy's wife. Her image and perceived value to her female peers is more important than the man who devoted his life to her. 99.9% of women born after 1960ish have been taught that they are better and more important than men, every day of their lives. Don't think for a second that they don't believe it. The minute they believe their life will be better without you, you are gone. It's an exhausting way to live, driving yourself to succeed and earn more money every year. Because her appetite for shoes and status only gets bigger, just like her ass. But you'll never tell her her ass is big, because if you do, she'll take half your shit, your house, and your kids. So the cycle repeats, you get weaker and softer, and she gets fatter and meaner. Until she's a fucking giant cuntflap of hate, and guys like SD's buddy will still mourn the loss of the love of a woman who never loved him to begin with. It's a fucking sickness. SD, some links for your buddy... www.youtube.com/channel/UCbbeOA5K7Hhc3I2vWG1jZ0w/videoswww.youtube.com/channel/UCbbeOA5K7Hhc3I2vWG1jZ0w/videos
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Post by mclovin on Feb 2, 2017 22:02:59 GMT -6
Literally 5 minutes after I posted this my daughter called from college. She's in her freshmen year, she's had a few setbacks but is strong and resilient, her grades are good, even though she hasn't been able to contribute to the hockey team on the ice (two hip impingement surgeries) her attitude is good and I'm proud. She tells me her mom, who isn't paying for any part of her education, sent her a long text encouraging her to drop out of college, move home and go to JUCO to learn a trade or nursing. Why would she do this? Because she's a woman, and she's incapable of empathy or joy. She can't even let her own daughters be happy or successful, because they are competition in her warped world of narcissism. She would rather sabotage her daughter's happiness so she can move her back home and have a babysitter for her new kid, and a scapegoat to rag on to make her feel better about herself.
When you step back and take an honest look at their behavior, most of them are terrible, despicable human beings.
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Post by wklman on Feb 2, 2017 22:26:29 GMT -6
You hit it on the head mclovin. I for one will probably never get married. I watched my mom belittle my dad all throughout their lives and my dad take it without even a whimper. I saw that shit as a kid up to adulthood and told myself if that's how being married is then I want no fucking part of it.
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Post by MoBuckChaser on Feb 3, 2017 4:02:05 GMT -6
Looks like what some guys need to do is get a fucking backbone and stick up for themselves. Getting used by a woman is there own fault, no one elses!
No wonder our society is so fucked up right now!
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Post by MoBuckChaser on Feb 3, 2017 4:24:30 GMT -6
Guess some guys found these women!
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