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Post by buckvelvet on Mar 14, 2017 9:39:45 GMT -6
So my wife & kids leave next Monday with her parents to drive from W MI to NC (outer banks) where her brother lives. So I get 3 weeks of vacation every year. I take a lot of time to hunt, cuz ya know why else would I be on this forum.  I am stuck in a quandry of sorts, do I burn a whole week to do this with them. My MIL can get under my skin in .2 seconds, control freak, agitating, etc.... I'd be in a car with that situation for 16-18 hours depending which route we take. A guy in at 67 would be my co-pilot if I went, so theres bathroom breaks for him, not mention my kids getting restless. Any family person understands the trials & tribulations i'm talking about. What do you do man, my wife doesn't care if I go or not. My oldest daughter said, I think your not going cuz gma would drive you nuts. LOL.... However we all know wive's not caring about what you do doesn't necessarily mean those exact words. I get along with my FIL great, funny as heck guy, he hunts and makes traditional archery equip. We get a long fine but my gaawwd the other half might cause me to leap from the car. Thoughts? Advice? |
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Post by buckvelvet on Mar 14, 2017 9:41:43 GMT -6
So my wife & kids leave next Monday with her parents to drive from W MI to NC (outer banks) where her brother lives. So I get 3 weeks of vacation every year. I take a lot of time to hunt, cuz ya know why else would I be on this forum. I am stuck in a quandry of sorts, do I burn a whole week to do this with them. My MIL can get under my skin in .2 seconds, control freak, agitating, etc.... I'd be in a car with that situation for 16-18 hours depending which route we take. A guy in at 67 would be my co-pilot if I went, so theres bathroom breaks for him, not mention my kids getting restless. Any family person understands the trials & tribulations i'm talking about. What do you do man, my wife doesn't care if I go or not. My oldest daughter said, I think your not going cuz gma would drive you nuts. LOL.... However we all know wive's not caring about what you do doesn't necessarily mean those exact words. I get along with my FIL great, funny as heck guy, he hunts and makes traditional archery equip. We get a long fine but my gaawwd the other half might cause me to leap from the car. Thoughts? Advice? Did I mention they live at the end of a cul-de-sac and have nothing in common with me whatsover. I basically stare at a wall and watch the clock pass when I'm with those folks down there. I try to be a team player but I'm just not a social butterfly type of person and its like nails on a chalkboard for me to suffer through that kind of stuff. |
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Post by biglakebass on Mar 14, 2017 10:01:13 GMT -6
Oh I totally get that. Thats a very tough one...... I dont have an answer.
My sister is getting married in January of 2019 in Mexico somewhere. A Destination Wedding..... yea wonderful. Congrats to her and her fiance, who is pretty much a dolt.
They got a huge inheritance from his aunt, so now they fly all over so its no big deal for the whole family to follow them.
I am trying to figure out how the hell I am going to weasle my way out of that. I have to bring 4 people down there, and depending where they want to go to, it could be a spendy propostion. Again, money isnt an issue for them any more, so what do they care.
Plus, I honestly dont want to spend a week with them.
I am good for Christmas afternoon with them for the most part, but if I have to spend 7 days with everyone, I will be going insane. I dont want to come home and pound my head on the counter and all pissed off because I just dropped several thousand dollars on it.
Mexico or beaches isnt my gig to begin with, so thats got my goat already.
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Post by kl9 on Mar 14, 2017 10:04:22 GMT -6
Don't go
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Post by buckvelvet on Mar 14, 2017 10:06:13 GMT -6
Oh I totally get that. Thats a very tough one...... I dont have an answer. My sister is getting married in January of 2019 in Mexico somewhere. A Destination Wedding..... yea wonderful. Congrats to her and her fiance, who is pretty much a dolt. They got a huge inheritance from his aunt, so now they fly all over so its no big deal for the whole family to follow them. I am trying to figure out how the hell I am going to weasle my way out of that. I have to bring 4 people down there, and depending where they want to go to, it could be a spendy propostion. Again, money isnt an issue for them any more, so what do they care. Plus, I honestly dont want to spend a week with them. I am good for Christmas afternoon with them for the most part, but if I have to spend 7 days with everyone, I will be going insane. I dont want to come home and pound my head on the counter and all pissed off because I just dropped several thousand dollars on it. Mexico or beaches isnt my gig to begin with, so thats got my goat already. Yep beaches aint my thing either, i can't lay on some stupid chair and watch the waves, I'd go postal! Basically its a full week of me biting my tongue hoping for the first day home. This sucks....... |
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Post by riggs on Mar 14, 2017 10:08:13 GMT -6
Don't do it! Even if it's important to your wife that you go, don't do it. I've spent long periods of time with my inlaws and even had to live with them for a brief stint and now we barely talk. It's by choice cause they were assholes, all the little comments they make about shit drove me nuts and there was almost a physical altercation with her dad which would have ended my marriage.
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Post by buckvelvet on Mar 14, 2017 10:08:18 GMT -6
Are you speaking from experience or just a bad ass from the couch? Tongue n Cheek yes but if you have experience with taking the don't go approach, what was the outcome? |
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Post by Freeborn on Mar 14, 2017 10:09:47 GMT -6
Does your Wife know how you feel? If she does let her know you don’t want to go and between you and your wife figure out how to communicate with her Parents. Most likely your wife will know how to handle her Parents.
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Post by kl9 on Mar 14, 2017 10:11:36 GMT -6
Are you speaking from experience or just a bad ass from the couch? Tongue n Cheek yes but if you have experience with taking the don't go approach, what was the outcome? Why waste 1/3 of your annual vacation on a trip in which you will be miserable? Sounds like your family very much understands that. I usually sit at a desk |
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Post by buckvelvet on Mar 14, 2017 10:12:38 GMT -6
Don't do it! Even if it's important to your wife that you go, don't do it. I've spent long periods of time with my inlaws and even had to live with them for a brief stint and now we barely talk. It's by choice cause they were assholes, all the little comments they make about shit drove me nuts and there was almost a physical altercation with her dad which would have ended my marriage. Well we went to the Zoo in Columbus, OH 3 years ago with them. As long as its me and my FIL in the front and everyone else leaves us alone to navigate it wasn't bad. However yes just in that brief 2 day stretch i could lost it a few times. Its not that I don't like the MIL it just the CONSTANT that gets under my skin quickly.... |
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Post by buckvelvet on Mar 14, 2017 10:17:32 GMT -6
Does your Wife know how you feel? If she does let her know you don’t want to go and between you and your wife figure out how to communicate with her Parents. Most likely your wife will know how to handle her Parents. My wife knows exactly how I feel, heck even she feels that way with her mom at times. When I think about it, I feel bad that I'm not going mostly cuz my kids are going, ya know what I mean. Thats what makes the whole damn thing hard for me to decipher what to do. Are you speaking from experience or just a bad ass from the couch? Tongue n Cheek yes but if you have experience with taking the don't go approach, what was the outcome? Why waste 1/3 of your annual vacation on a trip in which you will be miserable? Sounds like your family very much understands that. I usually sit at a desk I wasn't personally diggin on you, i sit at a desk all day long as well. Your right they do understand, but am I ok that something they'll probably remember most of their lives & I won't be there? Maybe I feel guilty about not going because its somewhat of a selfish stance to not go? I don't know, I feel like this is a lose-lose situation. |
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Post by riggs on Mar 14, 2017 10:19:54 GMT -6
Make some excuse why driving isn't an option for you and take a flight by yourself there and back.
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Post by kl9 on Mar 14, 2017 10:19:59 GMT -6
How big of a deal is this vacation to your family? How many vacations do they normally get to take?
If this is a huge event for them then maybe you should pony up and go. If they go on multiple vacations and this is just a run-of-the-mill excursion then skip for sure.
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Post by sd51555 on Mar 14, 2017 10:23:02 GMT -6
Don't go. Either of you guys. BV, you don't want to risk derailing everyone else's vacation by having to cover up a murder. Nobody is going to thank you for suffering through a week of shit you have no interest in.
BLB, you're not going to get any points either for blowing a massive wad of cash on going to that wedding. If they were concerned about having their friends and family at the wedding they shouldn't have booked that shit in another country.
I have no time for that shit anymore. If I don't wanna go, I don't go. Especially when it comes to weddings. That is the stupidest exercise in wasting money I've ever come across, and I'm trying to grow deer in MN. It's not that I don't care, it's that the people throwing these things don't care. Anymore, it's getting to be $500+ to go to weddings for family and friends I haven't seen in five+ years. I'd rather send a check for $50 and save them the cost of the open bar and extra plate.
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Post by sd51555 on Mar 14, 2017 10:26:44 GMT -6
BV, take your own vacation with the wife and kids later. One that'll only last 2-3 days and can be done regionally. If you're going to burn your time, make it on your terms.
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